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Give Good Head!
Giving head, a blow job, fellatio, call it what you like, but there are many wonderful benefits to performing this delicious sex act.
For one, it can provide the one giving it empowerment with infinite possibilities to be creative and provide amazing pleasure. Particularly when performed with enthusiasm it can not only be incredible to the receiver but to the one providing it as well.
Let's first discuss the most important ingredient to giving fantastic fellatio... ATTITUDE.
If you approach this as something that disgusts you, or even a chore then in my opinion, you shouldn't bother doing it.
No matter how many cool tips you know, you will never give really good head with out desire driving it. Sex should be fun and exciting to each partner no matter what you are doing.
Several women I know have told me that they exchange favours with their husband for fellatio. For example, one friend told me that her husband will do the dishes for a week just to get a blow job! I have to say that if that is the kind of sex life you have... you are missing out on some serious passion.
Don't ever underestimate the power of your perceptions. If you perceive any sex act, including fellatio to be dirty, repulsive, or a chore then it will be.
If you approach it as an opportunity to be the sexual goddess or god in the bedroom where you have total (consensual) control over your partner, with the ability to make them scream out for more until they reach an earth shattering orgasm where they can't stand up for a half an hour due to the sheer mind blowing sexual experience they just had... then I'd say you are going in the best direction for attitude in giving fellatio
The Perfect Hand Job!
Giving a great hand job begins with the mind as all seduction begins there. Making the context for the hand job feel erotic is about your attitude first and foremost. Just like women, men want to feel that you want them and doing things like whispering naughty things in their ear while you slowly ease your hand south is much better than jerking his cock out and mechanically going up and down with your hand.
The best way to start is gently and then gradually slide your hand up and down with a bit firmer grip, making sure to notice if he is enjoying the added pressure or if it is getting to be too much.
Communicate- Ask him in a soft whisper if it feels good, does he want it harder, or softer. Let him tell you what he wants. Many men will want it softer and then want increased intensity to as the hand job progresses. However, many factors will influence this, including personal preference, so it is always best to ask in a seductive way if this is a first time and/or it has never been discussed..
Hand jobs are greatly enhanced by the use of a lubricant. If you do not have access to a lubricant, using a substitute like hand cream, cooking oil or petroleum jelly will do.
If you use an alternative, remember that should you continue to sexual intercourse that a condom will not be safe to use unless the lubricant is water-based.
Also, make sure to avoid any types of oils or products that have skin irritants in them. Even using something with essential oils (like cinnamon, orange, etc.) can cause irritation and inflammation to the skin.
If you do not have access to a lubricant or do not want one, hand jobs must be done with more care as the friction to the tender skin of the penis can become irritating and painful.
The Frenulum (fren-yuh-lum). This is the most sensitive part of a man's penis.
Knowing that this is the most sensitive part of a man's penis it is easy to see why this is a great place to focus your efforts.
A great way to stimulate this part of the penis is by using the thumb to rub it while lubed or unlubed; enclosing it with your hand in a circle and lightly pulling on the head as you massage your thumb into the frenulum underneath.
To intensify this, take your other hand and hold his penis at the base, forcing the blood to the head (which will increase the intensity of the sensations).
Tips & Techniques
Milking.
This is the most common approach. Use one or both hands to milk his penis as you slide up and down it. Speed and pressure may vary.
Make a fire.
Rub the penis between both palms, as if rubbing two sticks together to create fire. Be sure to use plenty of lubricant or light friction for this technique.
Head of the class.
Hold the penis in one hand with the head sticking up. Using the well lubricated palm of your other hand, slowly and sensitively massage the head in a back and forth or rotating motion.
Ball & Shaft
With the penis resting on the man's stomach, take one hand and massage the testicles softy. Then glide the heel of the palm of the other hand up and down the underside of the penis.
Twist & Shout
Pull the skin of the penis toward the base with one hand. With the other hand use a corkscrew motion as you slide up the penis. The twist can be done with the thumb and first finger or with your entire grip.
Double Stroke.
Use one hand to lightly wrap around the base of the penis and softly slide up to the head, before that hand leaves the head have the other hand grasp the base of the penis and do the same thing so that both your hands are taking turns grasping and sliding up his cock. This motion can also be reversed to go down his penis rather than upward. Pressure and speed can vary.
Triple Delight.
Use one hand to play with his anus (just play with the outside unless he is into anal penetration), while the other slides up his balls and penis ending with added attention to the head. This works really well with fellatio doing the same thing, except using one hand for the anus, one hand for his balls and your mouth to his penis.
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